Succeeding Socially

Written By Colēgia

Social skills are the cornerstone of many cultures and being able to properly express yourself in these situations can help you immensely. Today we want to discuss what we can do to help us succeed socially while having fun in the process.

Prioritize Listening

Speaking and listening are two components that go hand in hand when it comes to succeeding socially. While speaking has its own time and place, listening on the other hand cannot be emphasized enough. A common mistake that many of us encounter when it comes to this is that most of the time we are simply waiting to share what we want to say. This makes it harder to relate to the other party since it demonstrates that we care more about our side than theirs. Socially confident people recognize that one of the best ways to build rapport is to show that you genuinely care about what the other person. We can do this by focusing on active listening. This is highlighted through a combination of observation of things such as body language, eye contact, and other factors commonly seen in communication while listening. Doing this can show that you care along with building a good relationship with the other person involved.

“Speaking and listening are two components that go hand in hand when it comes to succeeding socially.”

Express Yourself With Confidence

Confidence is another key part of succeeding socially. This can be seen in many forms and doesn't necessarily involve having to be outwardly confident. Inner confidence for example is best expressed by how comfortable you feel when doing a certain activity. Let's say that you have a talent in art or something hands-on. In some instances, it is almost palpable when someone is getting into their work along with how good their skills in something are. This doesn't need to have a lot of attention drawn to it, but the inner peace that you feel while doing this can make the process much easier when it comes to mental energy. Outwardly expressing confidence is good as well as it can make the people around you feel more comfortable. Some good ways to do this are by using open body language along with having an overall pleasant demeanor. Both establish trust while letting others know you're on the same side.

“Confidence is another key part of succeeding socially.”

Allow Space to be Vulnerable

Being able to succeed socially involves knowing when to share your weaknesses and when to be vulnerable. Owning your flaws is one of the best ways to do this and rather than focusing on self-deprecation you can use light humor to do this. Vulnerability is a good thing as it lets people know that you aren't perfect nor do you aspire to be. It can help others relate to you if they've been in a similar situation and can foster feelings of empathy. This is good as it lets both sides step into each other’s shoes to see what they've been through. It can help people from different backgrounds and upbringings know that they aren't alone which can help tighten relationships. People want to feel that they can relate and succeeding socially means letting others know that you've been through the same.

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